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Giving a Eulogy

The purpose of a eulogy is to share a person’s life in a single speech. It is therefore important to touch on the life of the deceased and to involve your audience emotionally.

Your eulogy style will depend on who is being remembered and the nature of their death. Giving a eulogy while coping with the loss of a loved one can be a very difficult challenge, however, giving a eulogy is also a tribute to the person you have lost. 

The eulogy should act as a springboard for others to call to mind their own special memories. So, talk about your feelings for this special person. Tell some stories about your shared experiences. Anecdotes are a splendid way to celebrate a life – there is no reason to avoid the things that were amusing or even mildly irreverent!

Many immediate family members may understandably feel unable to speak publicly themselves, yet have important things to say. Check with them. If they want to offer a few words or a precious memory, try to briefly include these.

Why preparing a eulogy is important

For many people giving any type of speech without conscious preparation is a challenge. We tend to drift off-topic or lose the thread connecting our ideas. This only becomes worse when we add emotion into the mix.

Preparation gives your eulogy a definite pattern. It helps you contain and convey your emotions without being overwhelmed by them. Without the safety of form, your eulogy may become a ramble with no obvious purpose or direction. That is distressing for everybody: the speaker and the audience.

Taking the time to fully prepare your speech is the safest way to express all you want to, the way you want to. Don’t worry if you need to shed tears during your delivery, it is likely that everybody listening will be crying too.

You may find that you prefer to have another person, perhaps the celebrant, deliver the eulogy - that is fine too.

To assist in the process of creating a eulogy, please feel free to download our writing guide here. You will require Adobe Reader to view this file.